Assalamualaikum,
Stepping out of our nafs (inner desires) and comfort zone isn't easy, but it's where all the real growth happens. Let me break it down in a relatable way:
1. Recognize Your Nafs
First, let’s call out the nafs for what it is: that little voice inside saying, “Stay in bed, you’ve done enough,” or “It’s okay to skip this challenge; you deserve to take it easy.” Sound familiar? The nafs loves to keep you comfortable because it’s scared of anything that feels hard or different. But comfort doesn’t lead to change, right?
2. Understand Why You’re Stuck
Ask yourself, "Why do I keep clinging to my comfort zone?" Is it fear of failure? Fear of judgment? Laziness? The more honest you are, the easier it’ll be to confront.
3. Start Small – Like, Really Small
You don’t have to flip your world upside down overnight. For example:
- If you’re afraid of public speaking, start by talking to someone new in your circle.
- If you’re too cozy with unhealthy habits, swap out one sugary snack for a healthier option this week. Tiny steps matter. They build momentum.
4. Have a Purpose Bigger Than Yourself
Why do you want to grow? Is it to be a better version of yourself for Allah, your family, or your dreams? Remind yourself that fighting the nafs is an act of strength and faith. It’s literally worship when done with the right intentions.
5. Feel the Fear but Do It Anyway
Look, fear doesn’t go away. But here’s the catch: you can act even while you’re scared. Treat it like an annoying friend—acknowledge it, but don’t let it steer the wheel.
6. Be Kind to Yourself During the Process
You’re going to stumble. The nafs is sneaky, and it’ll try to pull you back into old patterns. When that happens, don’t beat yourself up. Instead, remind yourself: “It’s progress, not perfection.”
7. Surround Yourself with Growth-Oriented People
You become like the people you hang around. Find those who are stepping out of their own comfort zones, too. Their energy will inspire you to push through.
Trust me surrounding yourself with toxic people will drain your spiritual energy, mental energy, and physical energy.
8. Celebrate the Wins (Even the Small Ones)
Did you do something uncomfortable today? Amazing. Give yourself credit for it. It’s a big deal because you just showed your nafs who’s boss. 🦾
Final Words: Turn It Into a Habit
Pushing past your comfort zone and overcoming your nafs isn’t a one-time thing. It’s a lifestyle. Every day, make it a goal to do one thing that stretches you, even if it’s just a little.
At the end of the day, remember: You were made for more than staying stagnant. You’ve got potential and purpose that can only be unlocked by stepping into the discomfort. The nafs will fight back, but you’ve got something it doesn’t—willpower and faith in Allah.
Until then,
-Neera
